Most men scatter their seed around heedlessly for we do not license the right to have children or to limit them as the Communist Chinese did a few years ago.  They made having more than one child a crime.  It is a crime that so many young girls are made pregnant because family education and the schools here in America have not made it a cultural imperative to inform boys coming into puberty that their inclinations must be curbed because it is a civic as well as a moral duty.  Father-hood is not a sometime thing.  It should be; in the sense it was when the man went out to bring home food, he killed it himself.  He built his home (nest) by himself and was responsible for raising the boys while his wife educated the girls to do woman things.  Girls get caught sometimes by the boys who shine them on telling them they will just die if the girl doesn’t let him have his way with her.

The interesting thing I have learned is that time goes so fast that our children had children who are now having children and there was so much that we wanted to teach them and somehow time had slipped away and the opportunity has gone.

I think that holding celebrations honoring motherhood and fatherhood are just another way to commercialize the kind of life we have created as a people. Families should decide how and when rather than consult a calendar that tells them that this day or that day is reserved (just that ONE day) to honor procreation.  I am sure that many children grow up knowing they have been short-changed by the kind of mothering and fathering they received.  But, memories about injustices are short and we go through the motions of giving honor to those who gave us life but might have been light on nurturing along the way.

We are going to take a trip to see a Great Grand-daughter as well as other family and friends who are needful of reminders that we are ancestors, male and female, and we have regard for ourselves and we think others might do so also.  But we are reminded that the boys have become husbands and some have become fathers and since Mother’s Day has come and gone it is HIS turn now.  What is so bad about this is that it is so automatic that no one questions the way it is celebrated.  It is NOT a religious holiday such as Christmas which is a turkey day.  It is not like civil holidays such as Memorial Day, the Fourth of July and days like that when the barbecues are put to use.  It is supposed to be one of the at home days but I think many believe Mother should still whop up huge dinners in her kitchen from scratch.  But, those days seem to have gone the way of radio and horseback riding. We can’t afford gas anymore. So let’s go out before prices rise much more and take Dad out to dinner.  By the way, Thanksgiving is one of those family dinners when we try to all get together and give thanks for being American. Thanks Mom AND Dad.